Su_78

Hello, first of all I have to apologize for my english which I'm not so good at, but I'll try my best.

I am 30 years old Thai lady who now live in Sweden for almost 9 years. I Live in 3 room apartment (+ kitchen and living room) with my 2 kids (6 years old and 12 years old).

I divorced my hasband 3 years ago and moved out to live by my own with my 2 children. I got a new boy-friend soon after the divorce and he has 1 son. We were together for almost 3 years and all those time we'd been in troublem, cause he has ADHD and I have very bad temper. We both have to work on ourselve very hard, so for 3 years we'd been fighting every often. We loved each other very much but we had to brake up cause we couldn't go on fighting any more.

In the last 2 months I have been very depress. I try to start a new life and fighting again to be able to stand by my own, but the same I have to fight for my kids against my ex-hasband and try to get over my boy-friend .

Yesterday I found out that I am pragnant with my boy-friend. We are not ready for this stuff, cause he is still working on his ADHD and try to get his life back in form as well as me.

All we think about is abortion but deeply in me I don't want to. I don't want to kill my child just because I was so stupid by not seeing it coming. And my boy-friend (ex boy-friend) started to missunderstand me that if I keep the baby means I want to catch him.

He asked me yesterday ¨what's good if I (we) will keep the baby?¨. I want very much to find a good answer for to keep the baby, but I couldn't. Because in this situation all I can see right now is a bad picture.

I need help. ¨What's good to keep the baby?¨
Should I make an abortion or keep my child. I don't want to do the thing that I might regret for the rest of my life

Regard/Su_78

Anna-Karin

Sounds like a tough situation.
First of all sit down with your ex and explain how you feel. You wanting to keep the baby is a good enough reson if that is what you want. Most midwifes have heard thease thoughts a milion times before, maby you should call your MVC and make an appointment to talk it over? Sometimes we all need a proffessional to sort out what we really want.

Su_78

Thank you very much Anna-Karin.

I didn't know that MVC can help me with this stuff.. Let's see. I'll call them tomorrow on monday.

I hope I will find the answer and support.

En Annan

Unfortunately I don't have that much to add and not that much to say to make this situation easier for You... Your situation seem to be more than troublesome. However there is support to get, so that You don't have to face it completely alone. Talking to a midwife, who most certainly is familiar with these kind of issues seem to be a good idea. No-one else can ever make such a decision for you but whatever the decision might be You shouldn't stay without support.

My dearest wishes for you... Take care!

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Su_78

Thank you very much En Anan.

I've been talk to people who had made an abortion about what reason they had and how they felt afterward.

Just like I said in the beginning.. I couldn't find the reason to keep the baby, and that's hurt me a lot.

You right about I need a good support no matter what I do.
Thank you very much for every post here.. and please keep posting. It will help me a lot.

SU_78

Jonas Fröberg

Oj oj oj what a situation! I feel for you!

What did MVC say?

Kind regards,
Jonas

Tags: pregnant, divorce, adhd, abortion

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